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How to Teach Your Child With Autism To Practice Acts Of Kindness

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Children want to be kind and helpful, but sometimes acts of kindness don’t come easy for children on the spectrum. It is important for you to set a good example for your child with autism, on how important it is to be kind to themselves and to others.

Here are some ways in which we feel your child with autism can learn acts of kindness from you:

1. Be a Good Role Model – When you say or do unkind things to other people your child with autism will learn to follow your example. Children pick these behaviors up quickly and learn that treating someone unfairly, demanding something from someone or calling someone names is acceptable behavior. Be a good role model to your child and always say kind things about yourself and others.

2. Read Stories of Kindness – Read stories about kindness and respect are also a great way to teach your child with autism that good things come to those to do good for others. It is also important to discuss how being kind makes the characters feel and to role play situations that appear in the stories. IT is also great to talk to your child about events in these stories and ask them what kind things they can think of doing if they were put in these situations and how they would want others to treat them.

3. Practice Acts of Kindness – Teach your child on the spectrum to help others, whether it be helping you clean around the house, or a neighbor carry something, or a friend with a project etc., teaching them to offer their help is a very important part of learning to be kind to others.

4. Be Kind to Yourself – Talk to your child with autism about what makes them happy and what they like to do, and make sure to set aside time for them to participate in activities they love. By doing show it will make them feel better about themselves, make them happy and decrease stress. When children are less stressed and happy, there is a better likelihood that they will help others achieve a sense of happiness.

5. Be Charitable – talk to your child with autism about how they can help on a large scale. Teach them about specific organizations and charities that fall into line with their interests. Explain to them the importance of helping others who can’t help themselves and explore the idea of volunteering for a charity or charity event/ This will teach your child that even a small amount of time and energy makes a big difference.

Being kind to yourself and others is an important part of living a happy and productive life. Modeling acts of kindness no matter how big or small and practicing kindness can help your child with autism to be humble, helpful and happy.

How To Help Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem

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No parent wants to see her child with autism suffer from low self-esteem, but unfortunately this can be a reality for many parents who have children on the spectrum.

Here are some ways you can help your child with autism boost their self-esteem and keep their confidence high.

If you have a child who is on the spectrum and is struggling with their self confidence it is important to ask them why they are feeling down. Some may be able to tell you, but if you’re child can’t communicate this with you, keep a close eye on their behavior, and talk to their teachers, their therapists, or anyone who works closely with your child to find out what could have caused a shift in their self-esteem.

Once you know the root of the problem, you will be able to help your child on the spectrum find effective ways to cope with their lack of self-esteem and offer effective solution.

We tend to be our own worst critics, and that’s especially true of children. But when they can’t meet the impossible standards that society sets for them (no matter what age they are), it affects the way they view themselves and can cause a decrease in their self-confidence. By offering an optimistic view on the situation, you can quickly turn their frown upside down and get them thinking positively about the situation, and, in turn feeling better about themselves and their abilities.

The best place to start working with your child on their self-esteem is at home. Home is supposed to be the safest place for a child, so by creating a safe space for them to talk openly, cry, and express their fears, feelings and doubts, you can get past the negative and start working with them on the positive things that are around them and the good they bring to every situation. It’s important to get past the doubts and fears and focus on your child’s strengths.

The best way to focus on the positive is to compliment your child on the spectrum when they do something right, when they try extra hard, when they say or do or act a way that make you proud of them. It’s also great to share these moments with family and friends so that your child with autism hears praises from their entire support system on their improvements.

By humbly bragging about your child, you prove that you aren’t just saying these things to make them feel better, but that others see their accomplishments as well and believe in their strengths and abilities. When you, your family and friends, your child’s teachers etc. show they are proud of your child with autism, it will make them feel better about themselves and will give them the confidence they need to boost their self-esteem.

Identifying Feelings Through Facial Expressions

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It is important for your child with autism to learn to read facial expressions because a lot of social interactions focus around a combination of words, body language and facial expressions. When your child on the spectrum is able to identify how a friend, classmate, sibling, parent, or person in the community feels, they are able to respond appropriately.
Here are some ways to help your child learn how to read and make proper facial expressions.
1. Practice in a Mirror – Show your child fun facial expressions in a mirror and get them to try to mimic you. It is also fun to turn this into a game, you can either show the expression and they get a point for matching what you did, or pick a category like – silly faces and the winner is the person who makes the best silly face etc. When your child on the spectrum makes a facial expression, you can point out how their eyes, eyebrows, nose, and mouth change shapes as they practice different expressions. You can also involve you child with autism in the decision making process when you are making facial expressions. Ask them questions like “If I am making a happy face should my eyes be large and round or should I squint?”

2. Role Play – Role play is a fun way for you to teach your child on the spectrum how to practice identifying feelings through proper facial expressions. Role play can be a group activity or a one on one game. Take turns acting out the feeling and pay special attention to your child’s expressions, so that you can ask questions about their “feelings” based on how they express them. paying special attention to facial expressions.

3. Use Natural Opportunities – When you are with your child with autism at school, at the park, at a friend or family member’s house or in the community, take time to talk to your child about what is happening around them and the expressions that they see. Maybe create a game called guess their feelings to teach your child how to read other people’s facial expressions properly. Another natural opportunity is when you and your child on the spectrum watch TV or videos together. It’s always good to use the expressions on the screen as a test. Simply pause what you are watching and discuss the character-s feelings and facial expressions.

When children struggle to understand other people’s feelings and manage their own emotions, it impacts friendships, adult interactions, and their behavior throughout the day. By teaching them to read and make proper facial expressions you are grooming them to be expressive, understanding and aware of other people’s feelings.