Teaching Your Child To Listen

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Most of us can’t count the number of times we have to tell our child on the spectrum to do something before they listen. Sometimes we even feel like we have to revert to yelling, punishment, or taking away favorite toys or privileges. What if there way a way to get your child with autism to listen the first time you told them to do something…Wouldn’t that be a miracle.

Well we are here to help bring you one step closer to your holiday miracle with a few techniques that can get your child on the spectrum to listen when you speak. Although these are some valuable tips and trice, please remember that all families and parents are different so there is no one scenario that will be exact, but some of these might come close.
What to do when you child does something wrong or annoying and you want them to stop?
Remember your child with autism knows your cues probably better than you do…they are on the receiving end and know when you are at the end of your rope, so you can repeat yourself over and over again, with no change until….they hear your “I’m at the end of my rope” voice and knows that you mean business.

Now that you know this…why not start with your “I’m at the end of my rope voice” be firm, be commanding, use your child’s full name if you need to…whatever it is that you know will get their ears to perk up and their eyes to look in your direction. If you don’t know what those cues are, do what your child does, monitor their reactions to more closely and once you can recognize what makes them perk up, use that to get them to listen.

Are word and a firm tone of voice enough to get them to listen? Maybe…but probably not. What is a guaranteed (although it takes time) is to show your child on the spectrum that you mean business and to be consistent in your message. Your words, your tone and your actions all have to say the same thing. If you tell them they will be on time out and they don’t listen, do not repeat yourself a second time, put them on time out. If you say you will take away their favorite toy if they don’t listen, don’t repeat yourself, take away their favorite toy right away. By showing with words and actions, your child with autism, will begin to understand that you mean business.

Remember that at the beginning there will be challenges, tears (on both ends), and will cause frustration all around, but there is a light at the end of this tunnel of tears. In the end this process will improve your relationship with your child on the spectrum, so keep calm and watch your child with autism transition from reacting to responding to your instructions and requests.

Once again, remember that all parents and all children are different, what works for one, may not work for the other, so takes these tips for what they are…tips, and adapt them to fit your home.